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Self Love - More then a buzz word

September 27, 20232 min read

“Love yourself first and everything else falls into line.” - Lucille Ball

Understanding Self - Love.

Self-love is not just a buzzword; it's a fundamental pillar of our well-being. It's about accepting yourself, flaws and all, and recognizing that you are deserving of love, care, and happiness. It's a journey filled with ups and downs, but every step you take brings you closer to the beautiful person you are meant to be.

Here are a few thoughts to keep in mind as you continue on your path to self-love:

  1. You are unique: There is no one else in the world quite like you. Your experiences, your quirks, and your talents make you special. Embrace your uniqueness and celebrate it. Not everyone will understand or appreciate you, but if you understand and appreciate you then you are winning!

  2. Embrace self-compassion: Just as you would offer a friend love and compassion in their times of need, remember to do the same for yourself. Be kind to yourself, especially in moments of self-doubt and when looking at your flaws (we all have them and that is okay!).

  3. Let go of perfection: Nobody is perfect, and striving for perfection is an endless, soul crushing chase. Embrace your imperfections as a part of what makes you beautifully human. It doesn't mean you can't work on becoming better, just accept that you will never be perfect 100% of the time.

  4. Self-care is not selfish: Taking care of yourself isn't selfish; it's essential. Make time for activities, people and practices that make you feel happy, relaxed, and rejuvenated. Self care is a spectrum and you should strive towards moments all along the spectrum. On one end is Simple, like having a special creamer for your morning coffee to Complex, like a weekend rejuvenation retreat with a Yoga Master.

  5. Surround yourself with positivity: Choose to be around people who uplift and support you. Positive relationships can have a significant impact on your self-esteem - there is science to back this up. We become like people with whom we spend time.

  6. Set healthy boundaries: It's okay to say no when you need to. Setting boundaries is a way of showing respect for yourself and your needs. You don't always have to cut people out completely if you can learn to develop healthy boundaries.

Remember that loving yourself is not a destination; it's an ongoing journey. It's normal to have moments of self-doubt. But never forget, you are worthy of love, happiness, and all the good things life has to offer.

I encourage you to take some time for self-reflection today. Think about the qualities that make you unique, the dreams and aspirations you hold dear, and the love you deserve. You are a work of art in progress, and each brushstroke adds to your beauty.


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Betty McLean, BSN RN

Certified Burnout Coach, RN since 2004

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